“In darkness, look to the light” is a line from the Dungeon Master, for those of you old enough to remember the old Dungeons & Dragons cartoon from the Nineteen-Eighties, a line I’ve carried with me through the last four decades.
Whilst my last post outlined and detailed the current dissatisfaction points in my life, that of course is just one side of the coin.
My wife read my post yesterday and whilst holding back on the many other problems she sees from her position (no doubt), she asked me what gave me satisfaction, what gave me suhkha, suhkha being the opposite of duhkha, those things in life which keep our wheel in kilter, spinning perfectly.
The list below is a definitive one using the same categories and clusters from yesterday, and although no doubt others could argue against a few of those, this captures the things that please me, that put me in the PMA zone (Positive Mental Attitude) and allows me to function at my best;
◦ I am well respected in work as someone who works hard and achieves greatness
◦ I mentor and nurture others to help them realise their potential
◦ I am liked by my work colleagues
◦ I am paid very well for what I do, and have a good work/life balance
◦ I am fit and healthy for my age
◦ I have optimised my weight and BMI
◦ I am in tune with my health and can listen to my body, adapting my habits when required
◦ I like to take alternative therapies to keep my balance (mind, body and soul)
Mental Well Being
◦ I am happy compared to others I know
◦ I can recognise when I am under stress and have the right tools to decrease anxiety
◦ I have friends for life, not many compared to some, but loyal and honest soul mates
◦ I like spending time with friends and they like my company
◦ I am a good judge of character and don’t suffer fools / waste time on pointless relationships
◦ I like being a part of my local community / tribe
◦ I like it when people I know and like do well in life
◦ I like reading
◦ I like blogging
◦ I like music and live concerts
◦ I like the arts, film and theatre
◦ I like time spent in nature
◦ I love my family, my family loves me (my ikigai)
◦ I am liked by friends, neighbours and colleagues
◦ I am seen as fun and energetic by others
◦ I believe in life beyond death which settles me
◦ I am wise and see the world how it really is, not how it is presented by others
◦ I am kind
Life is all about balance, good vs bad, light vs dark, day vs night, but such things are not conflicting or fighting against it’s opponent, it is complimenting it.
If we do not have opposites in play which bring the balance, how can we truly evolve as individuals if everything we have or do is positive.
I have spent this weekend in one of the most magical places on Earth (in my opinion), the Isle of Avalon, Glastonbury, where I am penning this blog from now, the majestic Tor sitting atop its ancient mound in view from my temporary bedroom window.
I have been coming to this place for the last twenty-seven years, and every time I visit I feel closer to The Source.
Adding what happened this weekend would not do justice as a footnote here, so I will save that experience for another post, but I will leave you with a pictorial reminder the both duhkha and suhkha exist, and it is our challenge to find the right balance, so we become balanced, which for me is enlightenment…